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Single dad

Run the house. Keep your name. No pity tour.

The house has to work on Tuesday. Write the week, and name the backup before you need them. Then live it.

Walk this lane

Do this lane in order.

You change lanes. You do not exit. Finish the block, then open the next one.

  1. 01TonightFinish this block, then take the next step.
  2. 02This weekFinish this block, then take the next step.
  3. 03MovesFinish this block, then take the next step.
  4. 04Tuesday cardFinish this block, then take the next step.
  5. 05BackupFinish this block, then take the next step.
  6. 06Legal helpFinish this block, then take the next step.
  7. 07Back to the mapThen go back to the mile you are actually on.

Tonight

Tomorrow is already written.

Three jobs. Then sleep. The speech can wait.

  1. Write tomorrow: the meal, the ride, the bedtime. Put it where you will see it in the morning.A week on paper is kinder than courage at 6 a.m.
  2. If tonight might break, text the backup before dinner. Name and the hour.The emergency contact should not be a search at 9.
  3. Twenty minutes with them. Phone in the other room.The list can run the house. It cannot be the only thing they get.

This week

The list for this week.

Concrete jobs. Not a speech, and not legal, medical, or financial advice.

  1. 01Sunday: meals, rides, bedtime, and the bill that is due.
  2. 02Backup adult named in the phone under a boring label.
  3. 03School, clinician, and pharmacy in one note.
  4. 04One hour this week that is just with them. Phone down.
  5. 05A night you will be asleep by a set hour, or a text to the backup before dinner.
  6. 06If a court order exists, it outranks this page. Ask your lawyer what you may do.

Moves

Concrete moves. Then go back to the mile.

  1. Sunday night, fill the Tuesday card: meals already in the house, rides, bedtime, and the bill that is due.A week you can see is kinder than courage you invent every morning.
  2. Name the backup before you need them. Phone number, and what they may do: pickup, overnight, or both.Save it under a boring label. The search is the failure.
  3. One note: school portal, clinician, pharmacy. Change it the day something changes.You will not remember the portal password at pickup.
  4. Tell them the next thing: dinner, then bed. Leave the hard story with your own person.They need Tuesday. They do not need your case.
  5. Name the night you will be asleep by a set hour. If that night breaks, text the backup before dinner.Empty is how mistakes happen. The text is the plan.
  6. If a court order covers a visit, ask your lawyer what you may do before you invent one.This page runs the house. The order outranks it.
  7. One walk, meal, or game this week. Phone in the other room for that block.The list can run Tuesday. It cannot be the visit.

A DadLane sheet. Fill the blanks, screenshot it, or print it.

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Be the dad who shows up

A DadLane sheet. The prompts are ours. Fill the blanks in your own words. Free to print. Not medical, legal, or financial advice.

Write it down

Tuesday card

Write it Sunday. Live it Tuesday. This card is the house, not a case.

  1. 01MealsName food you can cook. A new menu is not Tuesday.What is already in the house
  2. 02RidesThe pickup has a clock. Write it where you will see it at 6 a.m.Who, when, where
  3. 03BedtimeOne time. The same one you told them.The time you will keep
  4. 04Bill dueOne bill with an owner. The rest can wait for Sunday.Which one, which day
  5. 05BackupText them before dinner if the night might break.Name and number
  6. 06With themThe list can run the house. It cannot be the only thing they get.One thing. Phone down.

A DadLane sheet. Fill the blanks, screenshot it, or print it.

DadLane

Be the dad who shows up

A DadLane sheet. The prompts are ours. Fill the blanks in your own words. Free to print. Not medical, legal, or financial advice.

Backup

The second name.

If you are the only adult tonight, this card is the plan. Fill it before you need it.

  1. 01NameSave it under a boring label. The search is the failure.Who would come
  2. 02HourBefore dinner. Not at 9, when the house is already loud.When you text them
  3. 03They maySay the job. A vague 'can you help' is not a plan.Pickup, overnight, or both
  4. 04The noteBedtime, the clinician, and 988 are already written. Point at that card.Where the fridge card is
  5. 05The orderThis card runs the house. A court order outranks it.If one exists, what your lawyer said

If someone might get hurt, call 988 or 911 before you text the backup. This card is not a crisis plan.

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