The visit
Write what they said.
One page per stage. Three questions, then their words. This is not medical advice and not a dose chart.
Bring
A pen
Their words, not yours. The form from work if they asked for one.
Ask
Three
Then stop talking. Write the answer on the card for that stage.
If tonight
988
Before the next visit, if someone might get hurt. Call or text.
At the visit
Pen, three questions, their words.
One stage card. Not every card. You are writing what they said, not a diagnosis.
- 01Open the card for the mile you are onPregnancy through launch. One card. Leave the other miles closed.
- 02Ask the questions on that cardThree is enough. Then stop talking.
- 03Write their words in the blankNot your summary. The words you can read back tonight.
- 04If someone might get hurt, leave this pageThe kit is the next stop. This page is for a scheduled visit.
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Visit prep · pregnancy
Walk in with three questions.
You are the support person or the other parent. Write what the clinician says. This page does not give medical advice.
- 01 · AskWhat is the after-hours number, and what is worth a call tonight versus what waits until morning?After-hoursThe number, and what earns a call
- 02 · AskWhat do you want the support person to do in the room, and what should I stay out of?Your jobWhat they asked you to do
- 03 · AskWhat is the next visit, and which form do you need from my job?Next visitDate, time, and the form
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Visit prep · birth
Copy it before the car.
Discharge instructions belong in their words. DadLane will not rewrite them.
- 01 · AskSay the watch-list for tonight once more. I am writing it down.Watch forTheir list, copied
- 02 · AskIf something looks wrong at 2 a.m., do we call you, the after-hours line, or 911?2 a.m.Who you call
- 03 · AskWho is the baby's clinician, and what day is the first visit?First visitName, date, clinic
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Visit prep · first year
The plan you will actually follow.
Feeding and sleep belong to the child's clinician. Your sheet is a copy, not a second plan.
- 01 · AskWhat do both adults do on a hard night this month, in your words?Hard nightTheir steps
- 02 · AskWhich sign means we call tonight, and which one waits for the next visit?Call ifThe sign they named
- 03 · AskWhere should we write the feeding or sleep plan so we both follow the same one?The cardWhere the plan lives
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Visit prep · toddler
Two weeks, then the visit.
Bring one worry, not a stack of articles. Ask whether this is the ordinary week.
- 01 · AskIs this the ordinary week, or do you want to see them?The worryOne sentence you brought
- 02 · AskWhat do we try for fourteen days, and what day do we call if it is still there?Fourteen daysWhat they said to try
- 03 · AskDo you need a form from daycare, or from us?Call onThe date, or the sign
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Visit prep · school
One note the school can hear.
If two houses are in this, leave with one sentence both adults will repeat.
- 01 · AskWhat one sentence should the teacher hear from both houses?One sentenceThe fact both adults will repeat
- 02 · AskIf there is medicine at school, whose note does the nurse keep?Nurse's noteWho holds it
- 03 · AskWhat do you want us to watch this month, and when is the next visit?WatchThe sign, and the next date
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Visit prep · teens
Ask what you may say.
If you think they might get hurt, call or text 988. Do not wait for the next appointment to do that.
- 01 · AskWhat may I say in the car, and what should I leave in this room?In the carThe sentence they approved
- 02 · AskIf I think they might get hurt tonight, is it 988, you, or 911?Tonight988, the office, or 911
- 03 · AskWhat do you want me to know, and what stays between you and them?Yours to knowThe one fact they will share
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Visit prep · launch
The visits they lead.
Write what is still yours: the portal login, the insurance card, the ride. The medical plan is theirs and the clinician's.
- 01 · AskWhich appointments are theirs to book from this visit on?TheirsThe visits they book
- 02 · AskWhat insurance card or portal login has to be in their name before they leave?In their nameCard, login, or form
- 03 · AskWhat should I still know, and what is no longer mine to manage?Still yoursThe ride, or the one fact